Sunday, August 19, 2007

The strength of a good man

I saw a movie sometime ago. It was an old black and white movie of which I can't even remember. But there was a quote in there made by the single leading lady for what kind of man she was looking for. To paraphrase: "I just want to find a good honorable man."

Honorable.

Now that's not something you hear everyday in our current society.

Usually when people look for mates, at the top of the list is Hot, Good in Bed, Lots of money.

Mmmmkay.

Whatever happened to honorable? Or responsible? Respectful? How about good character?

We are so absorbed and used to what the media's idea of the essentials in life and partners based on what we see, read and are exposed to everyday (especially by subtle forms of advertising) that the strength of character has fallen to the wayside. We women (to paraphrase Why Did I Get Married?) don't even see the good men because we're too busy holding onto the bad ones! And I've been guilty of this. I had that tingling doubt that I couldn't do better than the guy I was with at the time (whom wasn't really much of a prize). I wanted someone who was eager to share his life with me. To take care of me as a man should for his family and to actually be a man. And in guys' defense, I think men are fed a short stick these days in what it really means to be a man because the definition is shown in oversexed, macho, horndog shows like The Man Show and the like without any regard for responsibility, maturity and mutual respect with a woman who shows him respect.

Hmm, drinking 6 packs of beer, slamming it on your head and then belching loudly is not my idea of sexy. And to counter that, feminine guys are similarly not that sexy to me either. I don't care what the Durham & St Andrews study concluded.

My father is an awesome man. I'm am really blessed to have him as my dad because I saw the best example of what being a man is. He took care of his family and loves my mom to this day after 30+ years of marriage. They still make each other laugh and know what the other is thinking. He's highly respectful of me and my mother and always thinks about his ladies with regard to the choices he makes for his family.

I want that in a man. Every woman out there (yup especially us beautiful black women -- no matter what kind of life long programming has told you otherwise) deserves that!

And don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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Thursday, August 16, 2007

Youtube Fandom!

Well, it's time for some show and tell. Like most folks in this generation, I'm a youtube-a-holic and there's some fabulous mvids on there for tv fandom. Especially fans that showcase couples that the powers that be would soon rather forget (read: black women and white men). So to curb my anger at tv for lack of this pairing, I'd like to post some of my favorite couples via some awesome fan made vids.

Here's to you lovely lovers!


Dean & Cassie from Supernatural




Christian & Michelle from Nip/Tuck




Todd and Evangeline from One Life to Live




The Tenth Doctor & Martha Jones from Doctor Who




John Sheppard & Teyla Emmagen from Stargate Atlantis





Charles & Cassie from Lincoln Heights




Fox Crane & Whitney Russell from Passions




Julian Crane & Eve Russell from Passions (Real life couple)




Jason Quartermaine & Keesha Ward from General Hospital




Lee "Apollo" Adama & Anastasia "Dee" Dualla-Adama




Hoban "Wash" Washburne & Zoe Alleyne Washburne from Firefly/Serenity (darn you Joss Whedon! I'm still bitter about the way this ended! GRR!)




Peter Petrelli & Simone Deveaux from Heroes (...still bitter...)




JT Yorke & Liberty Van Zandt from Degrassi: The Next Generation (Darn you Degrassi writers!! I'm still bitter about how this ended!!!)




Jack Carter & Allison Blake from Eureka




Shawn & Angela from Boy Meets World (darn you BMW writers I'm still bitter about...ah forget it..)




Zack Morris & Lisa Turtle from Saved By the Bell (I know it was just one episode but see note above)




Shawn & Isabelle from The 4400




Ben & Sue from Life As We Know It





Laila & Maks from Dancing With the Stars





That's all I got for now. I'll prob do movies next time!!!


TBC!

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Friday, August 10, 2007

Check this new Beauty campaign For AA women!!

Okay it's been awhile since a post as been added here, I know. But via Evia's awesome blog, I thought I would help and pass on the wonderful news about the campaign My Black is Beautiful. Which, coincidentally alludes to our name Eternal Beauty in Black! Right on P&B!!! Here's the news release!


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
August 9, 2007
CONTACT:
Goldie Taylor
212-464-7345

PROCTER & GAMBLE IGNITES NATIONAL CONVERSATION ON BEAUTY AMONG AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN
P&G/ESSENCE Poll Reveals Overwhelming Majority of African American Women Say that They are Portrayed "Worse" than Other Racial Groups in the Media.
Procter & Gamble Unveils "My Black is Beautiful;" Elicits Support from More than 3,000 Journalists, Business and Community Leaders During 2007 National Association of Black Journalists Convention

Cincinnati, OH and Las Vegas, NV (BlackNews.com) - Procter & Gamble (P&G) today announced the launch of My Black is Beautiful, a program designed to ignite and support a sustained national conversation by, for and about black women. The initiative was created to serve as the catalyst for a movement that affects positive change in the way African American women are reflected in popular culture. Results from a P&G/ESSENCE poll show that 77 percent of African American women are "concerned" about the way they are portrayed in popular media. The vast majority, 71 percent, say that they are portrayed "worse" than other racial groups in the media. Sixty-nine percent of respondents said that teens are negatively influenced by those images. Recognizing that beauty and self-confidence are intrinsically linked, P&G will introduce My Black is Beautiful and release the results of the consumer survey during National Association of Black Journalists Convention (NABJ), slated for August 8-12, 2007 in Las Vegas, Nevada.

"My Black is Beautiful is a celebration of the personal and collective beauty of African American women and encourages them to define and promote a beauty standard that is an authentic reflection of their spirit," said Najoh Tita Reid, P&G Multicultural Marketing Director. "We not only celebrate our own awesome beauty, but we want to empower Black women to challenge those who would see or portray us otherwise."

Key components under development include a multi-city My Black is Beautiful Conversation Tour and the release of a discussion guide to encourage women to facilitate or participate in a conversation cluster in their local communities. Consumers can more learn about the campaign and access the booklet online at www.myblackisbeautiful.com, at select retail store and in national magazines. Additionally, P&G has created a My Black is Beautiful community trust fund. We will continue to issue actions grants to community-based organizations dedicated to the health, education and empowerment of African American young women. A grant of $50,000, underwritten by Tampax and Always, awarded to and shared by the W.E.B. Dubois Society, GirlSpirit-Women Song Inc. and Urban Academy in June. . . .


What an amazing movement that is finally forming! We definitely need some positive images of black women to counter all the evil hateful messages out there.

Blog readers, check out the celebration over at MyBlackisBeautiful.com

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